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Loving Those Porcupine People

It’s easy to love people who love me. I feel so good inside when I’m with those people.  Elated and strong; I’m on top of the world when I find someone who returns my love with more love. And then there is everyone else. The not-so-nice, not-so-friendly, not-so-happy, porcupine people who are just very difficult… Continue reading Loving Those Porcupine People

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Mom’s Message on Manhood to her Sons, Part I

Dear Son, You may have noticed things changing and I felt it was important to explain to you why. Daily, I’m riddled with frustration over the state of our world and the state of people, in general.  But lately, I’m increasingly frustrated about the state of our boys. The older I get, the more I… Continue reading Mom’s Message on Manhood to her Sons, Part I

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Things Wives Wish Their Husbands Would Remember

  I have a great marriage. I needed to clarify this before I begin this post just in case you interpret this as a rant against my husband.  It’s not. My husband is a great man.   However, after over 20 years of marriage, there are still some things that I am surprised he doesn’t understand about… Continue reading Things Wives Wish Their Husbands Would Remember

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When You Are Waiting for a Christmas Miracle

  This year I did something new with my youngest child for the Christmas season. She struggles the most with the getting the “gimmies” at Christmas.  I needed something to get the focus off of her, and on to others.  Somebody recommended filling a stocking with the needs of people throughout the season and praying for… Continue reading When You Are Waiting for a Christmas Miracle

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Refusing to Give Regret the Right to Rule

“It’s a terrible thing to grow old.”  He said it with tears in his eyes and a trembling voice. I was in a mad rush to leave the country for a week.  There was a plane to catch, kids to place, luggage to grab.  In the midst of the busyness of my morning, I suddenly noticed this… Continue reading Refusing to Give Regret the Right to Rule

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BRAT TALK: Helping Kids Learn the Art of Good Interruptions

Their little faces pressed against the screen looking at me from the porch. My earlier frustration began to dissolve and was replaced quickly by feelings of guilt and compassion as I tried to wrap up my phone conversation. Have you ever been constantly interrupted while trying to have an intense or important conversation?  If you have children,… Continue reading BRAT TALK: Helping Kids Learn the Art of Good Interruptions

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Finding Our Feelers in a “Me” World and Teaching Our Children to Care

He looked at me with wide eyes trying hard to make sense of my words. “Really, I mean it.  Hasn’t anyone ever told you that you were made to be a rescuer and make this world a better place?  Try being a hero, instead of a killer.  You were made to be a hero!” He… Continue reading Finding Our Feelers in a “Me” World and Teaching Our Children to Care

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Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) Navigate the Green When Life Just Doesn’t Care

  The frustration was building on her face.   She would not look my way.  Perhaps it was to stay focused; most likely it was to keep from letting the tears escape. My heart hurt as I watched this girl of mine struggling to keep her composure.  Golf is a long game.  It is one thing to… Continue reading Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) Navigate the Green When Life Just Doesn’t Care

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When Pain Calls Your Name

 Her tears fell freely as I wrapped my arms around her shoulders near the end of the funeral.  Her young heart filled with sorrow as she processed the loss of a friend-forever in her mind.  Maybe not really forever, but when you are young, a lifetime can feel like forever.  We live each day with… Continue reading When Pain Calls Your Name

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All I Learned About Life From My 4th Grader as She Heads Off to School

She bounces when she walks.  It is an outward sign of her inward joy. And she has so much of it. I don’t know how it happened.  How it happened that she is so joyful is a mystery because she started life with so little. Almost ten years ago now, they handed her to me. … Continue reading All I Learned About Life From My 4th Grader as She Heads Off to School